You have a point you want to make. The problem? The other person isn't letting you make it. Or worse, they keep misinterpreting what you're saying. It's an endless loop of frustration. And that only ignites more arguments, fuels anger, and increases anxiety.
So, how do YOU get your point across?
You can’t, at least with that mindset!
But here's what you can do.
1. Drop the ego.
Let's face it: often, our goal isn't to communicate but to be right. That's the first problem. If that's your end game, you'll either keep steamrolling or keep shutting down. If your goal is to connect, you'll slow down and listen. That's where things start to shift.
2. Watch your tone.
You can say the right thing the wrong way and lose the whole room. Tone carries more weight than content. If you sound annoyed, sarcastic, or smug, your point won't land, it'll ricochet.
3. Say less.
Yes, less is more. Brevity isn't just polite. It's powerful. The more words you pile on, the more chances you give someone to misread, interrupt, or tune out. Say what you mean, then stop talking. Silence creates space for impact. Resist the desire to talk more.
4. Repeat their words.
If they don't feel heard, they won't hear you. Paraphrase what they said. Not to be fake, but to prove you're tracking. When they feel understood, their guard drops. Then, you can finally say your piece.
You don't "get your point across" by pushing harder. You do it by getting out of your own way, making room for theirs, and then slipping your truth in the gap. Simple. Not easy. But it works.
Enough said, you get the point.